Being in a relationship or getting married is something that has been happening since time in memorial. Furthermore, everyone is always hopeful that they will live happily ever after with their partners. We might be aware of who we are getting ourselves hitched to but never fully aware. We never really know people well.
Have you ever asked yourself if the person you are dating or married to is abusive? Maybe yes or no but how can you tell that the person you are with is abusive? An abusive relationship does not necessarily mean physical abuse (blows, kicks and the likes) but it could be emotional. You will not get bruised but it will torment you emotionally and this is the worst kind of abuse. How do you know that the person you are with is emotionally abusive? There are some signs that will definitely sell that person out you just need to be keen enough to see them.
Are there times that your partner threatens to leave or break up with you in case there has been a fight between the both of you or a consultation of any kind? It could go beyond them threatening you with a break up but also to end their lives or yours or even harming members of your family. Sometimes this can be associated with being very manipulative. They manipulate you into doing things for them and often victimize themselves to get some pity party from you.
Having a partner that loves you is something extraordinary. But what happens when that loves becomes too much that it begins to hurt? It’s always good if your partner gives you the freedom to be you at times without them wanting you to conform to their own kind of version. Sometimes this gets worse to a point where they want to know who you talk to, text, who you are with and if they are of the opposite sex, things get even worse and even where you are. In other words they want to control your life.
I recently learned that there is no good jealousy as people like to put it. What causes an alarm is when the jealousy makes you do bad things. Can you imagine getting a partner that gets too jealous and every time they tend to accuse you of having an affair even when they have no proof of it? They get too insecure to a point of going through your phone to check for any suspicious text or phone call.
This is quite common but one that people tend not to realize is a trait of an abusive relationship. A partner that is always so fast to put you down both in public and in private, one that keeps comparing you with someone else, they will always tell you how less smart, beautiful/handsome, how there are only with you because they are doing you a favor and saying things like you are not deserving of everything they do for you. These partners always want to make you feel inferior before them and that you are not worthy.
Relationships/marriages are not a bed of roses but that does not mean someone has to stay in a place where they feel less protected and less comfortable. They are supposed to feel like home not prison. When you realize your partners has some of these traits, those are already red flags and they should be notifying you to walk out of it. Emotional abuse cuts deeper than physical. Do not let someone interfere with your life or lower your self-worth just to feed their own. We are all deserving of peace, kindness, appreciation, care and love. If what you are receiving is quite opposite you are at the wrong home.
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